Read And Comment Often
This means in conversation that you should listen. People don't listen in conversations, they simply feel. Well, get a feel for the person, but don't use that to define them. Feelings are fluctuating and changing. For dealing with people shallowly, in a disinterested basis, you can use your feelings. If you want to get to know someone in more than a shallow level, you should not go by just your feelings, but what you hear from them. This is a more timely and accurate way of deeply connecting with someone.
Make sure your comments are heuristic which means letting people discover for themselves, and in theory meaning that there is lots of theory which can be postulated and created from the comment itself. So in essence your comments should lead to self discovery, and not be blatant obvious and blunt, though there is a place for that type of speech.
Love, Care and Share
You should love your friends and your enemies and God when you find Him. Caring about people is as much preparing yourself as actual caring for another person. Make sure the people are receptive to the love, caring and sharing You don't want to offend. This love and caring and sharing takes many forms, so experiment and see what works for you and the other person. This is a deeper level of communication than just reading and commenting. An example of love would be feeling for a person, even if you don't say anything. An example of care is buying a person a drink or offering them their coat even if it's cold. If you want to share something, feel free, share something that may touch someone else.
Reciprocate
When someone notices or appreciates you, no matter who they are, notice them. I know, I know, stay away from creeps. Most people aren't creepy. If they are they're probably stuck in yellow wallpaper. People who go out of their way not to notice you, please do the same. They are probably not worth your time and you don't need to cater to sensitive attitudes who would just abuse your love. So don't hate, reciprocate.
Connect Outside Of Your Situation
This is for advanced community students. If you are comfortable../ too comfortable...you should definitely try to connect outside of your comfort zone. Life is for the brave so don't keep yourself bound by your circumstances and your small close knit circle of friends. Embrace change in all it's aspects. In fact, not embracing change makes life more memorable, but don't ruin anyone's parade with it. Take the change as it comes and try not to be too surprised.
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